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Find Your Joy

What makes us happy can be different, and that’s okay.

If it wasn’t obvious from the fact that I’ve been writing for the Stew since 2014, or that I constantly talk about roleplaying games, let me state for the record that I love gaming. Gaming is such a source of joy in my life that when I was without it, I finally dredged up the courage to go seek it out on my own. The creativity and community of RPGs is firmly and adamantly something I claim as mine and I’m not planning on giving it up in this lifetime.

Thing is, that’s me and my joy. Not everyone finds joy in exactly the same ways and sometimes it’s important to recognize when the things that motivate us might be changing.

Recently, while doing #RPGaDay2019, in response to one of the prompts, a friend confessed that he hasn’t been enjoying gaming as much as he used to. It surprised and concerned him that he was losing interest and he wasn’t really sure what to do about it. We didn’t really talk about it deeply, but I felt a great deal of sympathy for him losing that spark. While I could try and give advice on how to get the magic back, I want to take a moment here and talk about how it’s important to understand how our interests and passions change.

Let’s state the most obvious thing here. You need to take care of yourself. When you find that you’re no longer enjoying a thing and it’s become a chore you complain about, it’s time to take a step back and examine the situation. Maybe you can determine how to change that negative energy back into the positive energy it once was, but if you can’t do that, maybe it’s time to move on to something else.

My hope is that everyone facing a time when gaming (whether the games themselves or the community surround it) is making them miserable can find a way to step back, re-examine what they’re doing and what they need, and find a way to enjoy the hobby once more. That’s why we’re all here, isn’t it?